From the mevakesh lev blog:
One of my favorite stories:
In a village in Europe in order to marry a girl you had to pay the father with cows [women of all ages - please forgive the moshol!:)]. A really special girl - 10 -11 cows. Average girl - 5-6 cows. Less - 2-3 cows. There was a certain fellow in town who was especially shrewd. Everyone was sure that he would get a great girl at a bargain price. He ended up with the least attractive, least desirable girl in town for which he paid [drum roll] SIXTEEN COWS!!!
HOLY COW!!! [li'ilui nishmas Phil Rizzuto]
Nobody could believe it! This dull, unintelligent girl with almost no skills and less personality for such an exorbitant price?!
About a month after the wedding someone came to visit and the girl was unrecognizable. Beautiful, well-mannered, noble and with many intelligent things to say. Not to mention a FANTASTIC cook [not that guys care about such things:)]. The visitor pulls his friend aside and whispers - "What happened? Such a drastic change!"
The shrewd chosson answers "Every day she looks in the mirror and says to herself 'My husband paid SIXTEEN COWS for me.'"
Moral: Always make your wife feel that she is worth diamonds and pearls. She will become her greatest self and you will both be happy.
Happy wife - Happy Life.
Ad Kan mi'divrei ha'blog.
The Rebbe in the Chovas Hatalmidim teaches so cogently that the only way to get the best out of your talmidim is to make THEM feel like they are priceless gems.
May I humbly add - start with yourself.
"Bi'shvili nivra ha'olam."
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